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Just started watching the series today.

Harmonie's issue wasn't about sex or a certain type of sex per se. She said she wanted passion - and expecting passionate sex with one person for a lifetime is unrealistic.

Plenty of couples continue to have active sex lives well into their 70's, 80's, and even 90's. 

But will it be the same as it was when they were in their 30's and 40's? 

No. 

The first issue is neither Harmonie's nor her husband's body is going to look nor be able to do the same things at the ages they are now 10, 20, 30, and 40 years hence.

Advancing age can play cruel tricks on our bodies and our minds; there's no guarantee either Harmonie or her husband will be physically or mentally capable of having "passionate" sex indefinitely.

So if that's what she's expecting from a partner, she's going to be disappointed no matter who he is. Prioritizing that over everything else is why she hasn't found anyone.

Wouldn't it be better if the traits she's looking for in a partner were those less likely to be affected by forces outside of her - and her husband's - control? 

Traits like kindness, compassion, honesty, trustworthiness, etc.? 

I think they are - for many people - but for Harmonie I suspect not.

Furthermore, if Harmonie does get married in 2023 like she predicted she will, the marriage won't last.

Why?

Because despite hiring a matchmaker, and the matchmaker advising her about what she should and should not do on her first few dates with a guy, Harmonie doesn't follow the rules.

She doesn't follow the rules because no one knows more about dating than she does.

Even though the guys she's dated aren't right for her. Which is probably because there's something wrong with them.

The fact she hasn't married yet despite desperately wanting to has nothing to do with her and everything to do with the guys with whom she's sharing her orbit being defective.

Maybe. Or something else. Probably. But it's absolutely positively NOT because of Harmonie.  

Unless it is.   ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

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